Marriage; Most Couple Have Sex Rather Than Make Love

Having sex is just an urge for intercourse. One may have sex with any person, needn’t be their partner, spouse, beloved one, etc unfortunately, many couples are doing that today in their homes having sex with their couples rather than making love with them and seeing it to be okay or normal which has largely affected their union.

While. love making use of their bodies, souls, and minds to reach one another’s hearts.

Having sex is as well as Fucking, which requires no emotional attachment between the participants, majority of  People assume that having sex or fucking happens between strangers, but you might be wrong for assuming that, because about 70% of partners, couples (husbands and wives) indulge in such activities of sexing more often, they only have sex, they fuck, like they just met in a bar and can fuck until the cows come home but it’s just fucking for them,  is about 30% of couples make love.

Making love, for real – not when just used as a less ‘vulgar’ euphemism for sexual intercourse, means that there’s a deep emotional connection between partners. It’s no less sweaty and carnal, it just has an extra added component of caring, compassion, being in tune with each other, and love.

Oftentimes, a lot of people, regardless of whether they are a man or a woman, cannot distinguish between two rather different acts, that is, lovemaking and having sex.

sex is an instinctive and bio-mechanical act and everyone can do it. On the other hand, making love is considered to be a sensual, slow, and not goal-oriented act that gives us the opportunity to experience the metaphysical being of oneness and it is considered to be an art in itself.

Hence, a fulfilling sex life and a successful romantic relationship should contain little of both.

The major characteristics of both acts with the purpose to increase awareness among readers of couples and help them lead a more successful sexual life and happy home, which will consequently help them to better their sexual health.

As explained by the who sexual health is a state of mental, physical, and social well-being in relation to one’s sexuality and it requires a positive and respectful outlook on sexuality and sexual relationships and an ability to enjoy sexual experiences without coercion, violence, and discrimination.

Making Love vs. Having Sex

sex or sexual intercourse means different things to different individuals, but one thing is for sure, this is a healthy and natural activity enjoyed by most people who find it meaningful in their own unique way.

one may decide to engage in this act for different purposes, for example, lust, intimacy, boredom, relief, to  exert power, fulfilling expectations, baby-making, expressing love, taking comfort, etc. this act is considered to be one of sharing and intimacy because there is not a more intimate act than letting another one inside a private body part with the goal to share pleasure.


Although the terms “having sex” and “making love” are used interchangeably by many and though making love often includes sexual intercourse, they do not necessarily indicate the same activity.

When two individuals make love, their vulnerability levels are pretty high. This is often a result of sharing emotions, life, and words that they may not have done before Both persons tend to let their guard down and risk and reward come into play.

During lovemaking, one experiences unique closeness with their partner and find it difficult to imagine other moments happening without them.

On the other hand, when you are having sex with someone, although vulnerability still plays a role, it is of a different kind, that closure, bounding emotion is not here, they just plug or open, and the action is done.  in sex having sex, you don’t need chemistry, or emotions people only need to release the burning desire in them, unfortunately, most couples indulge in such sex on a daily basis without knowing it and it has affected their marriage.

People who are aware of this distinction also know that making love involves both sides being entirely themselves, genuine and raw, like they are on the daily, regardless if this involves the occasional missionary pose or some more adventurous explorations. Mutual love and understanding are what allow partners to completely relax and make love without feeling any pressure or restraint regarding their sexual needs or wants.

Having sex does not always include genuine feelings and emotions and people may allow themselves to not be the person they are on a daily, as noted, One may try out all kinds of sexual desires and expose a different side of themselves that they may never actually show publically. You may also be expressing some hidden personality traits through the act of having sex without emotion.


When love is not in the picture but merely getting sexual pleasure, saying goodbye is never a problem and one may be able to move on without necessarily looking for commitment from the other side involved.

However, this is not always the case when you are making love with a person with whom you have found a connection.

Lovemaking puts more at stake than getting and giving sexual pleasure, like your feelings, emotions, and deepest thoughts that are shared during this act. This is why saying goodbye is not always something easily done and both partners feel more committed to each other.

Making Love                                                                                           Having Sex

The ecstatic adventure of a lifetime is                                                   more of a physical trill

Complex expression of love                                                                     physical activity

Helps communicate your love non-verbally                                        focused on the stimulation

Helps one to show good feelings and thoughts about their loved one         can be enjoyed without love

Requires sharing more than your body

To have a better grasp of the distinction between these two acts, it is beneficial to explain the “heights of sex” and the “depths of making love”.

The former is centered on stimulation and response from the nervous system. This type of sex is usually expressed solely by a physical experience and it is measured by how intense and how strong the stimulation is.

On the other hand, the “depths of sex” encourage both participants to use their bodies, souls, and minds to reach one another’s hearts. What’s more, lovemaking gives the partners space to discover any hidden issues that may appear during this uniquely intimate experience and to surpass the physical body limitations and connect with each other.

During this act, the focus is not solely on the physical body and it requires dedication to be able to truly win the partner’s mind, soul, and heart.

Today many couples don’t connect in the soul, body and heart reason many homes are empty.

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